Oh, the fun and curses of social media! I imply, you’re in all probability studying this text through a submit you noticed on social media, am I proper?! A social media break isn’t for everybody, however I’ve obtained a narrative for you.
I’ve made a profession out of social media with my background in digital advertising. I’ve met life-long mates by it, discovered this wonderful CGS group by Instagram, I’ve even discovered a long-lost older sister on Fb once I was in school (ask me about that story one other day lol).
Nevertheless, what occurs if you really feel like you’ll be able to’t operate with out checking your telephone? What occurs when Instagram places you in a spot of jealousy and evaluating your life to others? What occurs when you end up “doom-scrolling” on Instagram Fb, and now TikTok…and also you discover that you just’ve “doom-scrolled” for over an hour? What occurs when your iPhone informs you that you just’ve spent over 12 hours/per week on social media apps?
…Yeah, all these questions had been relayed to me…and I used to be in the midst of a profession breakdown.
So, ya lady wanted to take a break from social media.
By the point this text is revealed, I might be on my social media detox for about 6 months, except participating with the CGS group in fact, and I’ve realized a lot about myself and was in a position to get my life again!
Now, I wrote about how social media can have an effect on your funds, however hey, clearly, I nonetheless wanted to work on my social media utilization, so I made a decision to do a dopamine/social media detox. Honey, let me let you know…I realized so much, however I’ll share with you simply 5 classes I’ve realized (and nonetheless studying) throughout my social media break!
5 Classes I Realized Throughout My Social Media Break
#1 I Used Social Media for Escapism and a Distraction from Actuality
Oh, this was a tough capsule to swallow and a humbling lesson to study. You see since I’ve turned 30, life has been a bit powerful for me (professionally, emotionally, and so forth.), and I can admit that I turned to social media to not cope with issues that had been happening in my life.
I simply needed to be like these influencers who traveled the world without spending a dime on model journeys and get free make-up (don’t choose me for wanting free magnificence merchandise). I did the entire comparability of these girls who had important others (I’ve been single perpetually lol), who introduced they grew to become householders (I’m nonetheless renting lol), and had gotten promotions and/or their dream jobs (the longest I’ve been at a job was 2 years, and I’ve been let go a number of instances)…doom-scrolling on social media grew to become unhealthy.
It wasn’t till I began remedy, life-coaching, and working with Raya (trigger ya lady wants a village lol) and began doing the interior/shadow work inside myself that I needed to acknowledge that I used social media as a strategy to procrastinate. I used it as a strategy to escape my debt, to flee my low shallowness points, to flee my psychological well being points.
Now, I’ve realized that along with earnings, I can use social media as a strategy to achieve information and study from welcoming communities, like this one! I’m decided to create my dream life, a life that I don’t have to flee from 🙂
#2 I Have Means Extra Time
Bruh…when Siri advised me “Lena lady, you spend an excessive amount of time on IG and TikTok, return to your hobbies”, I listened lol! You guys, I used to be spending hours a day on my telephone like I used to be hooked on it, it grew to become a drug to me, a dopamine-spike in my mind. I couldn’t consider I wasted a lot time…I needed to do one thing.
It’s loopy as a result of I might at all times say issues like, “oh, I want I had extra time in a day to get issues accomplished” or “man, I want I had time to do all of the issues I need to do” or my favourite, “how do I’ve the identical 24 hours in a day that Beyonce has?” GIRL – as a result of I used to be on social media like I used to be courting it, haha!
It was actually fascinating how hastily, I had time to do issues like learn a e book for pleasure, go on morning struts, clear out my closets, train, prepare dinner wholesome meals (I’m nonetheless engaged on that one lol), begin studying a language, and so forth.…simply time! I swear, the following time you ask your self, “the place has the time gone?” The reply might be to social media lol!
#3 My Pursuits Modified
So, I ought to have talked about this earlier, however since I’m a group supervisor for CGS, I can’t surrender social media fully as a result of it’s a part of my job. Nevertheless, my break was primarily not scrolling and losing time on social media, and considered one of my objectives was to unfollow individuals and accounts that simply weren’t serving me anymore!
I couldn’t consider that I used to be following over 5,000 accounts on IG…like, how and most significantly, why? So, you understand what I did? I began to undergo my IG and began unfollowing all of the “blog-worthy” celebs just like the Kardashians/Jenners, completely different actuality stars, public figures, and types who simply weren’t including any worth to my life.
Admittedly, I’m nonetheless doing this as a result of apparently IG locks your account for those who unfollow too many individuals at a time (I realized the exhausting means lol). Additionally, why was I nonetheless following outdated classmates that I haven’t spoken to since elementary faculty?
As a substitute of following celebs and influencers who weren’t inspiring me or had been making me really feel dangerous about myself, I’ve been following extra content material in classes like self-love, private finance (comply with CGS on Instagram), psychological well being professionals, and solely celebs and influencers who encourage me or submit attention-grabbing content material.
Aww, I believe I’m rising up y’all lol!
#4 There may be No Time Just like the Current
Okay, this will go together with my earlier level about having extra time, however I’ve actually simply loved being within the second and never having to do something with out posting it to my IG tales.
I can get pleasure from my mates in-person with out posting our entire hangout on-line. I can dangle with my household with out posting pics of our meals, and I can simply get pleasure from my life in privateness!
#5 I Realized Who My Floor-level Mates Had been
This final lesson was powerful, however I wanted to study this. Now, once I determined to go on this break from social media, I didn’t make any sort of announcement, I simply…disappeared. I knew that I wanted to have a season the place I could possibly be egocentric and deal with me and my private growth.
What did I discover? My interior circle was at all times texting me, calling me, even despatched me DM messages simply to see how I used to be. After I was energetic on social media, I used to be fairly energetic and was at all times posting on my IG/FB tales, posting selfies, and fascinating with all posts on my feed.
What I discovered attention-grabbing was people who I didn’t even know in actual life, however they comply with me on social media, reached out to me earlier than some people that I’ve identified for years did! It’s been a bit jarring, however I’m studying to not take it private; as we’re all adults with lives, careers, children and important others…nevertheless it taught me that I’m doing the precise factor by specializing in myself, as a result of most individuals are…and that’s okay! 😊
Whew, I realized so much about myself and devoted a lot to myself throughout this detox, and to be trustworthy, I’ll ease my means again to social media, however I don’t really feel the rapid rush. I just like the quietness, the stillness, and the psychological readability. Social media will be anxiety-inducing, and I’m attempting to stay a mushy life in 2023!
Anyhow, I hope this text evokes you to mirror on how a lot time you spend on social media, and be extra intentional together with your time spent. There’s nothing fallacious with setting limits and taking a day or two out of the week to fully unplug!
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